Take Advantage of the Halo Effect

Excited about going on a first or second date with someone new, someone who seems more promising than usual?

Scrap the old safe standbys: Dinner, drinks, or coffee.

Take a risk.

Take advantage of the Halo Effect by doing something novel, original, or fun.

The Halo Effect: When you are doing something interesting, your date has more fun, and YOU, by association seem a lot more attractive and interesting.

Thus, improving your chance of making a connection!

So, if your gut is telling you that someone just might be special, forget the bland, short meeting and go for the gold. They are much more apt to notice your golden Halo and think you are worth getting to know more!

Plus, you'll learn much more about true compatibility as their real personality shines through!

Some Halo Date Night Ideas:

- Go drive some Go-Carts
- Have fun at one of those "Paint Your Own Pottery Places"
- Go to the batting range
- Do something seasonal: Pick apples, buy & carve pumpkins,make a Snowman in the park, dye Easter eggs, etc
- Go to the zoo, aquarium, or botanical garden
- Take your dog to the dog park and play Frisbee
- Go bowling
- Go to the mall and make a Bear together at BuildABear Workshop
- Go to a section of town known for their antique shops or art galleries
- And if you must do coffee, grab your Scrabble or Backgammon board and challenge them to a game

Readers: What are your favorite Halo Date Night Ideas?

Envision Success with Scripting

I don't know about you, but before a big date, many folks are afraid of failure- they are seeing all sorts of disastrous outcomes.

Or they are excited and hoping for a great outcome, but still, they aren't quite expecting an awesome ending to the evening.

To be success, you've got to see success.

So before your date, spend a few minutes envisioning everything going perfectly well.

Play it out in the movie theater of your mind.

- Imagine what you'd love to hear when they first see you.
- See all of the little things someone does when they really like you: imagine them opening the door for you, touching you on the shoulder or forearm, smiling wide.
- See the date going splendidly as you laugh your way through the evening, in easy enjoyment.

- And most importantly- see how you desire the date to end!
Picture the hug or kiss you'd like to get.
Hear what you'd love to have them say to you.
Feel what it will be like when they ask you out again because they can't wait to see you.

This process is called Scripting.

And everyday scripting can turn your dreams into reality.

Try it tonight and let me know how it goes!

Readers: When has what you seen in your head before a date actually happened to you?! Please share!

Dig a Little Deeper

The same old questions make first, second, and third dates feel stale.

Dig deeper to learn more about your date with this question: "Tell me something hardly anyone knows about you."

Not only will you learn something less superficial about your date, but by paying attention to HOW they answer the question, you'll learn even more about WHO they are!

Like:
- Are they evasive?
- Do they give the question an honest shot? Or do you get some surface level answer?
- Are they comfortable opening up a little?
- What kinds of things do they tend to keep to themselves?

Of course, offer to share your own answer to the question, too!

Real connection is about getting below the surface- so open up a little with an invitation to go deeper! And see where it takes you!

Welcome!

Welcome to Friday's Savvy Date Night Tips!

I'm Dr. Jenn and every Friday, I'm hooking you up with a short & sweet, yet smart, savvy, and sometimes even sassy tip for you to use on your Date Night.

Our motto: Date smarter, not harder.

When you know how to create a WOW impression and make the most of every date, you'll find your perfect partner much sooner!

That's my goal for every one of you: To step into your Best Self and find a great partner who's just the right match!

So, take a tip and run with it each week, and let me know how they work for you!